High Performance Academics Blog

 Let’s be honest: the college process brings  a lot  of noise. Everyone’s talking about rankings. Group chats are buzzing with “must-apply” schools. And somehow, the pressure starts feeling like a race—even when your teen has no idea where they want to go yet. Here’s the thing:  your teen’s college list should reflect  them —not their friends, not their cousins, and definitely not TikTok. Why List Building Matters Now Junior year is the time to start building a smart, balanced college list. That doesn’t mean finalizing everything. It means starting the  right way —with reflection and strategy, not comparison. Key questions to guide the process: Does my teen want a big school or small campus feel? Are we considering merit aid or financial fit? What support systems will they need (academic, social, LD)? Do they want to be close to home or try somewhere new? Are they undecided, or do they have a potential major in mind? Avoid the Trap of “Apply Everywhere” It’...

If you're the parent of a junior, you're in the perfect window. Not too late. Not too early. Just the right time to make college planning feel empowering—not overwhelming. It’s easy to think that “college stuff” happens senior year. The truth? Most of the meaningful groundwork—the pieces that reduce stress, open more opportunities, and lead to better decisions—are laid  junior year . Here’s what happens when families wait: College visits get rushed. Applications become a summer scramble. Choices get made in panic instead of peace. And here's what happens when they start now: ✅ Stronger essays ✅ Better-organized application plans ✅ A thoughtful, balanced list ✅ A less frazzled home in senior fall What Junior Year Is  Really  For: Building the list.  Start exploring colleges that  fit your teen,  not someone else’s idea of prestige. Organizing academics and extracurriculars.  Helping students frame what they’ve done—and what still matters to highlight. S...

Junior year is no joke. It’s often called the most important academic year—and it’s the time when college planning really begins to take shape. But that doesn’t mean your student has to do  everything  all at once. In fact, the best way to reduce pressure during senior year is to take just a few smart steps during junior fall. Here are five ways to stay ahead of the curve: 1. Start researching colleges. Not applying yet—just exploring. Look at websites, take a tour or two, and begin noticing what  matters  to your teen. Big or small? Urban or suburban? Research or teaching-focused? 2. Build a working college list. We’re not talking final decisions—just a draft. Starting with a list helps direct visits, research, and conversations. 3. Create or update a student resume. Colleges want to see how your teen spends their time outside the classroom. It doesn’t need to be perfect, just a clear record of activities, jobs, honors, and interests. 4. Start thinking about essay t...

If your teen has ever opened a blank document labeled “College Essay” and frozen, they’re not alone. Many students assume the college personal statement is just another English assignment—thesis statement, body paragraphs, conclusion. But the truth? It’s not about academic writing at all. The college essay is a personal narrative. It’s not graded. It’s  read —by admissions officers who want to hear your student’s voice, understand their perspective, and get a glimpse of who they are beyond GPA and test scores. So what makes a great essay? It’s not a polished research paper. It’s a moment, a story, a reflection. Something real. The strongest essays: Show the student’s growth or insight Reflect something that  matters  to them Don’t try to impress, but instead connect Sound like an actual teenager—not a teacher or parent Your teen doesn’t need a dramatic story. They need an authentic one. Whether it’s about a summer job, a quiet failure, or a small moment that changed their...

You’ve probably heard some version of it from a friend or fellow parent: “I’m trying not to take over... but if I don’t keep track of everything, nothing gets done.” Totally understandable. The college admissions process is high-stakes and high-pressure. As a parent, you want your teen to feel confident, make good choices, and meet their deadlines—but it can feel like they need more nudging than they’re ready to accept. This is one of the biggest challenges I coach families through: How to stay involved  without  taking control. Here’s what works: Create structure early.  Set up a shared calendar or deadline tracker. Review it together so everyone knows what’s coming—and when. Then step back and let your teen lead. Ask guiding questions.  Instead of “Did you finish your essay?” try “What are you thinking of writing about?” or “Do you want help getting started?” Open-ended questions invite ownership. Don’t fear quiet moments.  Teens often delay because they’re ov...

If you’re a parent navigating the college process with your teen, chances are you’ve had a moment of disbelief: “This is nothing like when I applied.” You’re absolutely right. College admissions have changed—dramatically. When we applied, most of us submitted to 4–6 schools, mailed in applications (often handwritten or typed), and hoped for the best. There were standardized tests, a personal essay, and maybe a school tour if it was nearby. The process wasn’t easy, but it also wasn’t this complex. Fast forward to today’s environment: Students are applying to 10, 15, even 20 schools. A Common App that feels more like a job application. Essays for  every school. The pressure to show “passion,” leadership, and impact. Test-optional policies that add strategy questions instead of removing them. Social media comparisons that quietly raise the stakes. It’s no wonder so many families feel overwhelmed. But the goal isn’t to panic—it’s to understand the  new  rules of the game so w...